Sex Therapy
in Centennial, CO & Washington, DC
Are You Struggling To Feel Confident And At Ease With Your Sexuality?
Does your intimate life leave you feeling more frustrated than fulfilled?
Have differences in sexual desire between you and your partner created tension, disappointment, or feelings of rejection?
Maybe you're questioning whether your sexual experiences are normal or wondering why intimacy doesn't feel as effortless as it seems for others. For example, you may be experiencing erectile dysfunction, difficulty reaching orgasm, premature or delayed ejaculation, or genito-pelvic pain. Or perhaps you're wondering about your engagement with porn, compulsive sexual urges, or uncertainty about exploring kink, ethical nonmonogamy (ENM), or polyamory.
Whatever your concerns, they may be affecting how you see yourself and connect with others.
Addressing Concerns About Your Sex Life Can Be Challenging
Maybe past experiences of sexual abuse, assault, or medical trauma are the reasons behind you feeling uncomfortable during physical intimacy. Even with a loving, trusted partner, your protective instinct may cause you to shy away from sex when you wish you could simply relax and enjoy being together.
Instead of feeling confident, spontaneous, or comfortable expressing your desires, intimacy leaves you feeling anxious and inadequate. Because sex can be difficult to discuss openly, you might feel isolated, wondering whether anyone else understands what you're going through.
Sexual difficulties don't have to define your relationships or your sense of self. Working with a compassionate sex therapist can help you explore your experiences without shame or judgment, address obstacles to intimacy, and discover healthier, more satisfying ways to experience pleasure and connection.
Have any questions? Send us a message!
Cultural Expectations Continue To Stigmatize Sexuality
Sexuality is a natural, meaningful part of being human, yet many of us grow up surrounded by messages suggesting it's something to hide, control, or feel embarrassed about. Cultural traditions, religious teachings, and social expectations can shape rigid ideas about how desire should be expressed and which relationships are considered acceptable.
These beliefs can be particularly restrictive for women, transgender and nonbinary individuals, and members of the LGBTQ+ community. Men aren't immune either, especially when expectations about masculinity discourage vulnerability or make it difficult to acknowledge experiences of sexual abuse.
The Negative Impact Of Shame, Guilt, And Trauma On Sexual Satisfaction
Sometimes, unresolved trauma, deeply ingrained beliefs, or uncomfortable emotions influence how safe and enjoyable intimacy feels. Experiences involving sexual assault, abuse, or other threatening situations may contribute to distressing memories, difficulties experiencing pleasure, and emotional and physical pain during sex.
Feelings of guilt or embarrassment can create additional barriers, making it harder to communicate desires, establish boundaries, or seek help. And when you've spent years believing certain aspects of your sexuality are unacceptable, changing those beliefs isn't necessarily easy, even when you recognize they're holding you back.
You have the right to experience sex in ways that feel safe, authentic, and fulfilling.
Sex therapy offers a compassionate space to challenge limiting beliefs, explore personal desires, and work through painful experiences. With support from a nonjudgmental sex therapist, you can begin replacing shame with self-acceptance while discovering greater comfort, confidence, and connection in your intimate life.
Sex Therapy Helps You Explore And Connect With Your Desires
I provide compassionate, LGBTQ-affirming sex therapy that welcomes people of all sexual orientations, gender identities, and relationship structures. Whether you want to discover new aspects of your sexuality, work through internalized homophobia or transphobia, address sexual functioning concerns, or explore kink, BDSM, and ENM, I’ll provide a supportive environment where your experiences and desires are respected.
I recognize that sexuality and relationships are deeply personal, and there is no single definition of what a fulfilling intimate life should look like. Together, we'll explore your concerns with openness, curiosity, and respect.
In counseling, I work with individuals as well as couples and partners, helping them process sexual trauma, reconnect with their desire, and develop a more comfortable, authentic relationship with sex, their bodies, and their identities.
What You Can Expect During Sex Therapy
Sex therapy takes a whole-person approach, recognizing that your sexuality is closely connected to your emotional health, physical comfort, relationships, and overall sense of wellbeing. Rather than focusing solely on sexual concerns, we'll explore how these different aspects of your life interact and influence your experiences with intimacy.
Because sexual trauma can leave lasting emotional and physical effects, I approach our work with sensitivity and an awareness of how past experiences may affect your sense of safety. You won't be expected to revisit painful memories or share details you're not comfortable discussing.
In therapy, we'll gently examine the experiences, relationships, and cultural messages that have influenced your beliefs about sex, sexuality, pleasure, and your body.
Whether you're experiencing low sexual desire, difficulty with orgasms, erectile dysfunction, or shame about your desires and fantasies, our work will focus on helping you feel more empowered, nurture your self-trust, and encourage curiosity in your sexuality.
Personalized Sex Therapy Approaches
There's no universal blueprint for a healthy or satisfying sex life, and therapy isn't about trying to fit your experiences into someone else's definition of “normal.” Instead, we'll explore what feels satisfying and meaningful to you, recognizing that physical hesitation or discomfort may be your body's way of communicating something important.
Shame can be a powerful obstacle to intimacy. I'll help you uncover where these feelings come from, challenge these beliefs, and make room for greater fulfillment.
Our sessions will be tailored around your goals. Perhaps you'd like to reconnect with sexual desire, work through unresolved trauma, become more comfortable in your body, navigate consensual non-monogamy, or develop a healthier relationship with pornography. Whatever brings you to sex therapy, we'll explore areas of dissatisfaction and establish meaningful goals that reflect your values.
Along the way, I'll introduce practical strategies you can use outside our sessions, including mindfulness practices, communication techniques, and non-sexual touch skills. For couples and partners, we may explore gentle, touch-based activities designed to encourage closeness and rebuild trust without sex.
You deserve a relationship with your body and sexuality that feels accepting rather than adversarial. Sex therapy can help you free yourself from shame, guilt, and embarrassment to discover new possibilities for meaningful intimacy.
Still Have Questions About Starting Sex Therapy?
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Absolutely not! Despite what you may have heard (or stumbled across online), sex therapy is a form of talk therapy focused on sexuality, sexual behavior, or sexual functioning.
A sex therapist provides a safe space for you, never having any intimate physical contact with you. Like traditional counseling, sessions involve discussing your concerns, understanding underlying challenges, and exploring ways to improve your sexual wellbeing.
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It's completely understandable to feel uneasy talking about something so personal, especially if you've never openly discussed your sexual experiences or desires before—and that’s ok!
There's no pressure to share everything right away. We'll move at a pace that respects your comfort level, gently exploring difficult feelings while building tolerance and self-compassion. My goal is to make sex therapy a welcoming experience where you can feel safe, understood, and accepted.
Sex Therapy Can Help You Embrace Your Sexuality With Confidence
If you're wondering how sex therapy can help you with challenges in your sex life, I invite you to contact me. To schedule a free 15–30-minute consultation, please call me at 202-656-1488 (DC area) or 720-990-4988 (Denver area), complete the contact form, or use the online booking portal.
